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I am using this space to share thoughts, from time to time, that come from my clinical work and reading.  I hope this is helpful for you.

THERAPISTS' MISTAKES

For many people who are in therapy, it can be good to know that therapists also make mistakes. Sounds obvious, but it isn't something that everyone considers. Irwin Hirsch has written a terrific book on this, Coasting in the Countertransference. He explores how sometimes therapists avoid anxiety ridden topics, rather than deal with the discomfort that can arise in pursuing particular issues. It's a helpful reminder that therapy requires a certain courage from patients, as well as their therapists.

September, 2017

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COMING OUT AS GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL OR TRANSGENDER

Revealing the deepest parts of ourselves to others can feel like a great risk. Certainly this can be the case in coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. Over the years I've worked with many people who've struggled to gain the courage to share this part of themselves with family members, friends or co-workers. And while coming out to others doesn't always go smoothly or as hoped, I have never worked with anyone who's regretted it. Luckily, these days, websites, libraries and bookstores are brimming with information about coming out, and the LGBT Center offers a wide range of social and support opportunities for people --- whether they have been out for years or are just coming out.

August, 2017

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SURVIVING A SUICIDE

The numbers are shocking and sad: some 200,000 people in the United States annually lose a loved one to suicide (according to the AAS). I have worked with a number of people who have been affected by suicide. They often come in with conflicting feelings: mourning, grief, rage and guilt. Therapy can be a lifeline for people who survive the suicide of a loved one.  A helpful resource is The Samaritans of New York (212-673-3000) which offers free of charge support groups for survivors of suicide.

July, 2017

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