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I am using this space to share thoughts, from time to time, that come from my clinical work and reading.  I hope this is helpful for you.

THE SEXUAL ABUSE OF BOYS AND RECOVERY

Sadly, approximately one in four boys faces some form of sexual abuse. Psychotherapy can help with recovery from such experiences. I've worked extensively with abuse survivors and have shared in their struggles to feel in control of their bodies, manage painful memories, and enter relationships as equal players. I've been struck time and again by the resiliency of survivors --- how so many carry on with their lives to find meaning and success. I'd like to mention MaleSurvivor, a wonderful organization that helps many in their healing process. I've been affiliated with the group as a Board member, an Advisory Board member, and as Chair of their international conference. I've seen first hand how effective MaleSurvivor is through its weekend retreats, interactive web site, and its bi-annual international conference which brings together survivors, their families, and professionals who work with survivors. I encourage you to look at MaleSurvivor's web site.

March, 2018


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A MEMOIR I RECOMMEND

Excavating Pieces is a quietly touching memoir of growing up in a home under the thumb of a rageful, sadistic and sexually abusive stepfather.  Written with understated grace by Patrick Husted, I highly recommend this book.  Patrick is a former patient and when we worked together, I was often amazed and moved by how he survived the abusive landscape of his childhood with both resilience and dignity.  I hope you'll give yourself the opportunity to read this touching life story.

February, 2018

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CRYSTAL METH AND RECOVERY

I’ve recently been fortunate to have a book recommended to me: Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man’s Guide to Sex and Recovery, by David Fawcett, Ph.D.  If you are struggling with crystal meth, are a therapist working with a patient who has a meth addiction, or want to understand a friend or family member who is in the grips of this addiction — then this book is essential reading.  Fawcett explores the methamphetamine crisis from both a psychological and  sociological perspective.  He has a deep understanding of the causes of this addiction, the pain it creates, and the steps towards recovery.  I couldn’t recommend a book more highly.

January, 2018

 

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COUPLES THERAPY

I inevitably look forward to seeing the couples I work with in therapy --- young and old, short-term partners and long-term spouses, gay and straight --- it's a great opportunity for members of couples to get to know themselves and each other better, and to learn how to be more of a team.  I recently read a very thoughtful article by Alain de Botton about the reality of relationships and I highly recommend it to you.  As his article suggests, a good question to ask someone you're dating is, "And how are you crazy?".  As he wisely notes "...we believe ourselves to be seeking happiness in marriage.  It isn't that simple.  What we really seek is familiarity..."

December, 2017

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HEALING MY LIFE FROM INCEST TO JOY

Healing My Life from Incest to Joy is a very compelling book written by Donna Jenson.  She chronicles her growing up in a family in which she was violently abused.  Donna’s primary focus, however, is on her experience in healing and finding joy in life.  She writes of her journey in creating a healthy and long lasting love life, finding meaning through writing and performing, and building a family of choice.  I loved the book and think you will too. You can learn more about her work through www.timetotell.org.

November, 2017

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